Bridge The Gap
“It’s hard to beat a person who never gives up.”- Babe Ruth
As I stood before my opened closet that morning, contemplating what to wear, my eyes lighted on a lovely green jumpsuit. It had hung, unworn in my closet, for a year now since my cousin gave it to me. For whatever reason, my PreciousRuby couldn’t stand its sight. I had hoped that he will come around one day and I will be able to wear this precious gift one day. Looking at the green ensemble again, defiance welled up in me and I was determined that today will be that day.
No sooner had I made up my mind to wear it, another thought of having a backup plan crept into my mind. Years of conditioning my mind to always have a plan B.
Preparing to leave for my bath, I whispered causally to him, “I know you don’t like my green jumpsuit, but that’s what I am going to wear today!” He made a funny face and explained why he didn’t like it, he said it was too revealing considering my body shape and it could be distracting if gazed at. (LOL) I laughed out really hard…and put up the argument that people will wear or do whatever they like or want to do, but the onus is on each one to apply self-discipline in their response.
Long story short, by the time, I was set to dress up, I could not find the green jumpsuit! My inquiry met smiling eyes and laughter-filled, ‘I don’t know!’. Well, I quickly swung to plan B, my grey and black knee-length dress. When he saw that I was dressed up, he said, ‘ I like this dress!’ and bent under the bed to bring out my green jumpsuit. I had a very good laugh…in fact, we both laughed so hard and we were brought back to reality with the voice of our daughter saying over the bedroom door, ‘mummy, we are getting late for school, are you not ready?’
While this isn’t a post about what dress to wear or whether husbands should choose dresses for wives, or if jumpsuits are good or bad, I will like us to focus on the fact that I had a plan B from inception, knowing fully well that I might face resistance to my desire to wear the green jumpsuit. So I didn’t feel sad or depressed when I couldn’t get Plan A done, I quickly moved on to the next plan. So I was prepared mentally to deal with the possible outcome of the resistance.
If we recognise that, trouble doesn’t pre-inform us, we will prepare mentally for everything we do. We will think through our actions/options and find possible ways to get things done without necessarily impeding the next person’s progress or relegating ourselves.
It’s important to recover quickly. You can’t keep replaying the hurt, or nursing the pain. Find a way to move forward. Find a positive side to what has happened, list and review the options available to you now then take a well-thought-out step to bridge the gap of where you are now and where you want to be.
Bridge the gap. Seek wise counsel for your situation. Talk to a professional If you need to. But please don’t be stuck in one place because plan A did not work.
My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full life.
“ Even though the fig trees have no blossoms, and there are no grapes on the vines; even though the olive crop fails, and the fields lie empty and barren; even though the flocks die in the fields, and the cattle barns are empty, yet I will rejoice in the Lord! I will be joyful in the God of my salvation!” ~ Habakkuk 3:17-18 New Living Translation (NLT)
Prayer: Dear Lord, I thank you for the gift of doing life with you as my helper. Father, I ask for the grace to remain focus on what’s important, to avoid distractions, and to keep moving forward regardless of the resistance. In Jesus name, Amen.