Responsibility Will Enlarge You!
Hello friends, I guess it isn’t too late to say Happy New Year? Considering that this is my first post in 2019.
As I write this, it is 4: 09 am, February 16th, the day of the Presidential Election in Nigeria, my birth land and current place of residence. In the midst of all the activities leading to the elections, I have had to carry out several tasks with little or no physical support. These task borders on being a wife, mother, sister, daughter of God, an entrepreneur, and home maker. My reality is that these task aren’t title based, they are roles I need to deliver on.
The good thing is that I am a better version of myself every time I get them done properly without dropping the balls. However the real challenge is in having all the balls in the air and having your eyes on them to ensure that no ball falls. The first thing I must admit is the fact that focus is important in a world of several responsibilities. Regardless of how many things calling out for my attention, I have learned to make four aspects of my life a priority:
My relationship with God
My Mental Health
My relationship with my spouse
My family
Focusing on these four gives me the stability
I need to be effective in the other departments of my life. I woke up this morning with the thoughts of how my days are so busy and how I hardly find the time to do things like writing and spending more time at my business. As I thought about that, my relationship with myself stared at me with accusing eyes saying, ‘so, you put in so much effort to ensure everyone around you are fine yet little effort to consider the things that makes me happy. Why?’ These efforts may be little but are really significant. It may be as little as having ‘ me time’. LOL. How would a ‘me time’ be realistic when I haven’t delivered on my deliverables? The answer that came to me is in three bullets point:
1 I must come to terms with my current situation. What are my current realities? What can I do to navigate through successfully? (I tell you, finding time to write about this is a therapy! *exhales*)
2 I must seek for help. None of us should be ashamed to seek for help. Help is available if we ask from the right source. I think that self-preservation isn’t doing us much good. This self –preservation is often borne out of fear. One of my lessons from February 2019 so far is that, far has torment and one way to avoid its torment is to work in love. Love doesn’t self-preserve. Seek for help when you need it you can’t do everything by yourself. Even though getting a long term domestic help staff isn’t an option for me, I can still access help by seeking partnerships and delegating. These two may require some degree of vulnerability from me but the rewards are huge.
3 I must write often. Witting is how I exhale, ventilate and hibernate my soul. When I write, I clear my mind. Writing for me is opening up to get help. Every time I share my thoughts I am giving the world an opportunity to share its perspective with me, and this open ups my thinking faculty and enlarges my mind with creative ways to think about achieving my task.
So here’s my conclusion. Taking responsibility is how we grow. To live beyond the limitations of a mental health diagnosis, you must be responsible for the things you have been given. If you are responsible for little, big will come. Another take away is that, your mental health should not be neglected. Rest when you need to rest. To rest effectively you must be willing to ask for help by delegating and seeking profitable partnerships for your tasks. To effectively ask for help, sometimes, you will have to open up about your challenges and that can make you feel vulnerable.
Thanks for stopping by my blog. I celebrate you! May 2019 be a positive year for you.
My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full life.
Scripture:
Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in the world. There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
1 John 4: 17-18. King James Version (KJV)
Prayer: Lord I thank you for entrusting me with responsibilities. I am grateful. I ask that you will give me the strength and wisdom required to carry out every task that you have entrusted to me. In Jesus name.