Search For Love
Many of us seek for love in places, situations, persons and even books (sounds funny though but its true) *smiling*. I am no exception to that and am not ignorant of the pressures and dangers of seeking love in the wrong place bore out of an overwhelming desire to satisfy your emotions whether in the affirmative or negative.
I remember vividly, in my early years of been diagnosed Bi polar, one of my greatest worry was, if I will ever find a relationship that will love and accept me for who I am and not what I have been through.
Scott Haltzman, M.D, says that, “when people get into a relationship, they are looking for stability”. He went on to say that, “the person (bipolar patient), particularly if untreated, may be prone to changes in their mood, their personality and their interactions that can threaten the consistency that is the frame work of a relationship”.
My parents gave me much validation of love expressed in cash, kind and moral support. They did all they could within their power to prove to me that am loved beyond my circumstances, despite the glaring limitations I was experiencing then.
Someone would have expected that to be more than enough for me; having a relationship within my family that offered love and support, but sadly, over time, I realised that it was not! I still felt a huge void in my soul, so I started the search for love.
I wish I could tell you I was successful, or that I did not make costly mistakes, or that I even knew the kind of love that will validate and fulfil me completely at that stage of my life, while embarking on the search.
None of the above is true. I was repeatedly hurt and disappointed by the objects of my affections; until, I discovered, ‘what you don’t have you can’t give’. My discovery affirmed the timeless wisdom in Victor Hugo’s words, “the supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves-say rather, loved in spite of ourselves.”
As much as our loved ones, friends and well-wishers will want to validate their love for us through gifts of time, money, material and moral support, they will never be able to fill the void in our hearts.
A wise man once described it as a God spaced vacuum which only God can fill. So don’t feel bad, forsaken or rejected if you didn’t have a Val on Valentine’s day celebration, or if your Val didn’t show up.
That person can’t fill the longing of your heart; to love and be loved, if you have not first accepted the love of God which He offers through Christ Jesus His son.
The Love God offers is patient, it is kind, it does not envy, does not boast, is not proud, not rude, it is not a self seeking love, it is not a love that is easily angered, this love keeps no record of wrongs done to it, has no delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. This love always seeks to protect, always trust, always hopes, always preserves. You can rely on this love for validation because it never fails. This LOVE is GOD.
Truly, I have come to realise
- That no man or woman can give you the love you deserve except they have been empowered from Above.
- That if you love God, you will love right.
PRAYER:
Heavenly Father, forgive me for seeking love and validation from sources other than You. Father, I accept your Perfect Love, I recognise that Your son, Jesus Christ died on the cross to set me free and set me apart to be loved and to love. I receive grace to live out your love, in Jesus Name, Amen.
Kindly Remember
- That you have to take your medication(s) as prescribed by the doctors.
- That you don’t have to avoid your appointments with your physician.
- That you have to rest well, eat healthy, exercise safely, and avoid stress.
- That you can pray over your medications that; they will work perfectly for you without side effects.
- That you can pray to God to perfect all that concerns your mental health.
REFERENCES:
1 Corinthians 14 : 4 – 8a,
1 John 4 : 10 – 12
My name is Precious, I was Bi-polar and I live a full life
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Nice reminder about God's unconditional love. can imagine how the world would be if we could actually practice this love, is it practicable?
Hello! Thanks for you feedback. Yes, this love is practicable, like everything of value, you have to consciously work to achieve it, by practicing it, not just wishing or saying it. I believe love is a verb; its meant to be an action word.