Back then in the university, I earned the nick names, “miss hips” and “mi round” because of my well-rounded thighs and backside. While most of my friends felt it was a plus, I felt it was a minus and embarked on a self-imposed dieting plan. So I had fluctuating weight sizes (from size 12 and sometimes up to size 16!).
I can recall how I felt when someone who hadn’t seen me in a while commented on my weight loss. “What happened to you? Are you ill?” she asked. Another said, “You are no longer “miss hips!” At the time, I felt quiet confused about what I wanted; I wasn’t quite sure of my values. Later, I had to decide what I really wanted and whether I would allow the presence or absence of hips to define me. These were some of the questions I’ve had to answer in the process of understanding and loving me.
Why this analogy? Recently, I started to feel ‘fat’ and act ‘fat’. I would look into the mirror and say to myself, “Precious, you are getting fat ooo. You are looking ugly, are you sure hubby is comfortable with this your new weight?”  
If negative self-talk is not nipped from the root, it will come back reinforced.

 How did I nip those negative self-talks in the bud?

1) I reminded myself of psalm 139: 14 -15. I said it over and over again, not as a cliché, but with understanding and conviction. 

“I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.” ~ Psalm 139: 14


2) I reminded myself that being fat or slim does not define who I am. I am a child of God, one of His princesses, His beloved and He created me this way for a reason, a reason I may never fathom or fully comprehend. 

3) I am not my Hips. I am not my looks. Looks are impressive and important too, but I believe that the quality of my heart should matter more.

4) Hubby never complained about me being fat, so why was I concerned? Not loving oneself often boils down to insecurities and fears. So I had to identify and deal with my fears (may be in another post, I will talk about that) 

5) I choose me. Yes, irrespective of how I look, feel or act, I still choose to love me. I am committed to loving myself 100%. It does matter whether I am in my primitive or refined stage, I choose me!

What about you? What negative self-talk are you paying attention to? What you give your attention to determines how you feel and act. Please take your power back. Fill your mind with positive self-talk. Choose you. Love you unconditionally because…

If you don’t love you, it will be difficult to love others or make meaningful impact in their lives.



My name is Precious, I was Bipolar and I live a full life.

Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for how you made me. You made me in a fearful and wonderful way for a specific purpose that brings you glory. Help me to always remember this. Help me to represent you well in everything – my appearance, my disposition and in the quality of my thoughts. Thank you dear Lord.

Psalm 139: 14 -15


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